Peter J. Jessen

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17.  LIST of 7 Habits for Being Effective
LIST of "7 Habits" of Steven R. Covey from three books:  (1) 7 Habits of Highly Effective People;  (2) The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families (page numbers below refer to this book).  Each chapter ends with a series of discussion questions for families to use to become more effective developing family lists of to do's, and (3) his son Sean's book:  The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teenagers.  Single words in bold at far right are PJJ's.
  •  Intro:  Like airplanes: “You’re Going to Be ‘Off Track’ 90% of the Time.  So What?” pp. 3-8
   [Sean:  Paradigms and Principles:  What You See Is What You Get, p. 11] GPA
  •  Habit 1:  Be Proactive rather than reactive, pp. 27-69   [Sean:  I am the Force, p. 47]    ACT
   •  “Becoming an Agent of change in Your Family”
   •  “Habit 1:  Be Proactive:  be responsible:  the most fundamental decision of all”
   •  Principles of Personal Vision   [The endowment of self-knowledge or self-awareness]
   •  Key question for Habit 1:  “Are my actions based upon self-chosen values or upon my moods, feelings, and circumstances?
  •  Habit 2:  Begin With The End In Mind, pp. 70-112   [Sean:  Control Your Own Destiny
   •  “Developing a Family Mission Statement” or Someone Else Will, p. 73]
   •  Principles of Personal Leadership   [The endowment of imagination and conscience]    GOAL
   •  Key question for Habit 2:  “Have I written a personal mission statement which provides meaning, purpose, and direction to my life?  Do my actions flow from my mission?" “What will your life be about?  Your Mission Statement.”
  •  Habit 3:  Put First Things First, pp. 113-168 [See Covey's First Things First] 1ST
   •  “Making Family a Priority in a Turbulent World”
   •  Principles of Personal Management [The endowment of willpower]
[Sean: Will & Won't Power, p. 105],
   •  Key question for Habit 3:  “Am I able to say no to the unimportant, no matter how urgent, and yes to the important?"   “The tactical:  how to make ‘first things’ happen.”
  •  Habit 4:  Think “Win-Win”, pp. 169-200 [See Covey's:  Principle-Centered Leadership]
   •  “Moving from ‘Me’ to ‘We.’”    [Sean:  Life is an All-You-Can-Eat Buffet, p. 145) LEAD
   •  “From ‘win-lose’ or ‘lose-win’ to ‘win-win’ with ‘win-win agreements’.”
   •  Principles of Integrated Leadership   [The endowment of of an abundance mentality]
   •  Key question for Habit 4:  "Am I able to say no to the unimportant, no matter how urgent, and yes to the important?"  “The root  habit:  mutual benefit, Golden Rule.” 
   •  Habit 5:  Seek First to Understand ... Then to be Understood, pp. 201-246 U2U
   •  "Solving Family Problems Through Empathic Communication.”   
   •  Principles of Everyday Communication    [The endowment of courage balanced with consideration]  
   •  Key question for Habit 5:  "Do I avoid autobiographical responses and instead faithfully reflect my understanding of the other person before seeking to be understood?" “This is the route  habit:  method, pathway to interdependent action.”
   •  [Sean:  You have 2 ears & 1 mouth ... Hel - lo! p. 163]
  •  Habit 6:  Synergize, pp. 247-275    [Sean:  The "High" Way, p. 181]
   •  "Building Family Unity Through Celebrating Differences"   Collaborate
   •  Principles of Creative Cooperation    [The endowment of creativity] 
   •  Key question for Habit 6:  "Do I value different opinions, viewpoints, and perspectives of others when seeking solutions?" 
  •  Habit 7:  Sharpen the Saw, pp. 276-312  [Sean:  It's "Me Time", p. 205] Renew
•  “Renewing the Family Spirit Through Traditions”
   •  Principles of Balanced Self-Renewal    [The endowment of continuous improvement or self-renewal]
   •  Key question for Habit 7:  “Am I engaged in continuous improvement in the physical, mental, spiritual, and social/’emotional dimensions of my life?”
  •  Conclusion:  From Significance, pp. 313-364   
   •  [Sean:  Keep hope alive:  Kid, You'll Move Mountains, p. 243]   LEAD
   •  “Family Destinations”
   •  “The Four Roles of Principle-Centered Family Leadership”
Teaching (empowering), Organizing (aligning), Mentoring (relationship of respect and care), and Modeling (setting examples of trustworthiness).
   •  “Three Mistakes”   -   “The Trim Tab Factor”   -   “Letting Go”
   •  “Experiencing and Applying the 7 Habits Framework in Your Own Situation”
   •  “The Seven Habits Family Worksheet:  Applying Principles to Your Challenges”
   •  “Courage   ...   Love   ...   Humility”
[Note:  All words are Covey's except those labeled Sean's.  Bold words in right hand column are PJJ's]
[Covey summary by Peter J. Jessen, for WHS Leadership Class, December 2 & 9, 1998]
  •  Franklin Covey Co. vision statement: 
"to teach people to teach themselves and become independent of the company."
   •  Other Covey lists:
•  The Emotional Bank Account
•  Quadrant II Time Management Matrix
•  Principle centered leadership (home or work)
•  Alignment of self with others, principles, habits
•  List of saw sharpening family renewal: physical, mental, social/emotional, spiritual
•  List of destinations: Survival to Stability to Success to Significance
•  The Four Roles of Principle-Centered Family Leadership: Teaching (empowering), Organizing (aligning), Mentoring (relationship of respect and care), & Modeling (setting examples of trustworthiness)