Peter J. Jessen

"Goals Per Action" Success Consultant · · 9931 SW 61st Ave., Portland, OR 97219 · Tel: 503.977.3240 · Fax: 503.977.3239

Classes Based on Stephen Covey's, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Two class series — one for adults and one for teens — based on Stephen Covey and Sean Covey's books



7 Habits


Pages 169-209, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families:  Building a Beautiful Family Culture in a Turbulent World, Stephen R. Covey, Golden Books, New York, NY, 1997
Pages 105-130, THE 7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE TEEN: THE ULTIMATE TEENAGE SUCCESS GUIDE, Sean Covey, A Fireside Book, Simon & Schuste, 1998
Pages 16, 66, The 7 Habits of Effective Teens: THE MINIATURE EDITION, Sean Covey, 2002

•  No one likes to lose

  •  Win - Win, Not:  lose - win or win - lose or lose - lose

  •  Key question for Habit 4:  "Am I able to say no to the unimportant, no matter how urgent, and yes to the important?"  “The root  habit:  mutual benefit, Golden Rule.” 

  •  The Principle: 
     What is important to another person must be as important to you as the other person is to you.

  •  Win-Win is really the only solid foundation for effective family interaction

  •  “Moving from ‘Me’ to ‘We.’”    

  •  Abundance mentality vs. Scarcity mentality (sharing or not)

  •  Let win in little, interact in big, offset competition

     girls BB story
     bowling story
     teaching reading story

  •  “From ‘win-lose’ or ‘lose-win’ to ‘win-win’ with
     ‘win-win agreements’:”     written:  let govern

  •  5 elements:  desired results, guidelines, resources, accountability, consequences (no nagging)

Other resources

Roger Fisher and William Ury, Getting to Yes:  Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In
Roger Fisher and Scott Brown, Getting Together:  Building a Relationship That Gets To YES