LIST of "7 Habits" of Steven R. Covey from three books: (1) 7 Habits of Highly Effective People; (2) The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families (page numbers below refer to this book). Each chapter ends with a series of discussion questions for families to use to become more effective developing family lists of to do's, and (3) his son Sean's book: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teenagers. Single words in bold at far right are PJJ's.
Intro: Like airplanes: Youre Going to Be Off Track 90% of the Time. So What? pp. 3-8
[Sean: Paradigms and Principles: What You See Is What You Get, p. 11] GPA
Habit 1: Be Proactive rather than reactive, pp. 27-69 [Sean: I am the Force, p. 47] ACT
Becoming an Agent of change in Your Family
Habit 1: Be Proactive: be responsible: the most fundamental decision of all
Principles of Personal Vision [The endowment of self-knowledge or self-awareness]
Key question for Habit 1: Are my actions based upon self-chosen values or upon my moods, feelings, and circumstances?
Habit 2: Begin With The End In Mind, pp. 70-112 [Sean: Control Your Own Destiny
Developing a Family Mission Statement or Someone Else Will, p. 73]
Principles of Personal Leadership [The endowment of imagination and conscience] GOAL
Key question for Habit 2: Have I written a personal mission statement which provides meaning, purpose, and direction to my life? Do my actions flow from my mission?" What will your life be about? Your Mission Statement.
Habit 3: Put First Things First, pp. 113-168 [See Covey's First Things First] 1ST
Making Family a Priority in a Turbulent World
Principles of Personal Management [The endowment of willpower]
[Sean: Will & Won't Power, p. 105],
Key question for Habit 3: Am I able to say no to the unimportant, no matter how urgent, and yes to the important?" The tactical: how to make first things happen.
Habit 4: Think Win-Win, pp. 169-200 [See Covey's: Principle-Centered Leadership]
Moving from Me to We. [Sean: Life is an All-You-Can-Eat Buffet, p. 145) LEAD
From win-lose or lose-win to win-win with win-win agreements.
Principles of Integrated Leadership [The endowment of of an abundance mentality]
Key question for Habit 4: "Am I able to say no to the unimportant, no matter how urgent, and yes to the important?" The root habit: mutual benefit, Golden Rule.
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand ... Then to be Understood, pp. 201-246 U2U
"Solving Family Problems Through Empathic Communication.
Principles of Everyday Communication [The endowment of courage balanced with consideration]
Key question for Habit 5: "Do I avoid autobiographical responses and instead faithfully reflect my understanding of the other person before seeking to be understood?" This is the route habit: method, pathway to interdependent action.
[Sean: You have 2 ears & 1 mouth ... Hel - lo! p. 163]
Habit 6: Synergize, pp. 247-275 [Sean: The "High" Way, p. 181]
"Building Family Unity Through Celebrating Differences" Collaborate
Principles of Creative Cooperation [The endowment of creativity]
Key question for Habit 6: "Do I value different opinions, viewpoints, and perspectives of others when seeking solutions?"
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw, pp. 276-312 [Sean: It's "Me Time", p. 205] Renew
Renewing the Family Spirit Through Traditions
Principles of Balanced Self-Renewal [The endowment of continuous improvement or self-renewal]
Key question for Habit 7: Am I engaged in continuous improvement in the physical, mental, spiritual, and social/emotional dimensions of my life?
Conclusion: From Survival..to Stability..to Success..to Significance, pp. 313-364
[Sean: Keep hope alive: Kid, You'll Move Mountains, p. 243] LEAD
The Four Roles of Principle-Centered Family Leadership
Teaching (empowering), Organizing (aligning), Mentoring (relationship of respect and care), and Modeling (setting examples of trustworthiness).
Three Mistakes - The Trim Tab Factor - Letting Go
Experiencing and Applying the 7 Habits Framework in Your Own Situation
The Seven Habits Family Worksheet: Applying Principles to Your Challenges
Courage ... Love ... Humility
[Note: All words are Covey's except those labeled Sean's. Bold words in right hand column are PJJ's]
[Covey summary by Peter J. Jessen, for WHS Leadership Class, December 2 & 9, 1998]
Franklin Covey Co. vision statement:
"to teach people to teach themselves and become independent of the company."
Other Covey lists:
The Emotional Bank Account
Quadrant II Time Management Matrix
Principle centered leadership (home or work)
Alignment of self with others, principles, habits
List of saw sharpening family renewal: physical, mental, social/emotional, spiritual
List of destinations: Survival to Stability to Success to Significance
The Four Roles of Principle-Centered Family Leadership: Teaching (empowering), Organizing (aligning), Mentoring (relationship of respect and care), & Modeling (setting examples of trustworthiness)